Former alt-right and current Canadian political commentator Lauren Southern has shared shocking revelations in her new memoir This Is Not Real Life, published July 16, 2025. Southern's memoir alleges that controversial influencer Andrew Tate sexually assaulted and choked her during a business trip to Romania in 2018.
According to Southern, she had attended a meeting for work, and Tate asked her to go to a nightclub after. Once there, Southern became quite intoxicated and was taken back to her hotel, where the alleged assault happened. Southern alleges that Tate assaulted her even though she continuously told him no, says that he choked her to the point of losing consciousness.
Southern has also stated that she contacted authorities in the UK, and Canada to explain what happened, but they told her that only Romanian police had jurisdiction over the crime. Reportedly, local police had advised her of Romania's heavily corrupted system and that discouraged her from pursuing it any further.
Key points from Southern's Memoir:
- She stated “no” multiple times during the incident
- She claimed she was strangled into unconsciousness
- She reported to police, but assistance was limited
- There were long-lasting emotional and psychological scars from the trauma
Tate already faces separate rape and trafficking charges in the UK and has not responded to Southern’s claims. The memoir has escalated the controversy surrounding him.
Lauren Southern accuses Andrew Tate of SA’ing her in new memoir excerpt
— yeet (@Awk20000) July 16, 2025
“He carried me back to the hotel room and asked me to sleep beside him..I was incredibly intoxicated..he wanted to go further..I said no..multiple times..and tried to pull his hands off me” pic.twitter.com/H99GDTuHFg
Beyond Politics and Fame Southern Handles Her Past and Her Faith
Southern’s memoir is much much more than one accusation. It explores her personal experience of exactly how she became disillusioned with online far-rightism, her own antifeminist history, and her own obsession with idolizing influencial men like Tate.
She explains how the very same positions she took did not allow her to characterize herself as a victim. At the peak of her stature online, Southern publicly pretended her trauma didn't exist because she worried if she shared the truth she would lose authenticity and credibility with her followers. Instead, she suppressed her trauma and moved forward — until now.
High Points of Emotion from the Memoir:
- She talks about the emotional harm of not accepting her own victimhood
- She describes the end of a relationship and the challenges facing her, now a single mom
- She admits to crying as an emotional breakdown and turning point
- Her faith in God provided her with clarity and power
Lauren Southern, 22 at the time, travelled to Romania in 2018 to meet the Tate brothers with Tommy Robinson and their media team. They were hoping to launch a right-wing news network backed by crypto investors.
— HUMAN WA$TE (@Dplanet) July 16, 2025
She didn’t know the “investors” were Andrew and Tristan Tate. pic.twitter.com/n1LBzvXYOM
Southern also points out, the cult-like blind loyalty of online fandoms, and the way influencers, like Tate, become idols and saviors to young men trying to establish their identity. She cautions readers about the dangers of parasocial relationships, where unidimensional emotional bonds can create false visions of reality.
Her book is a confession as well as a reckoning - with her previous self, with her audience, and with the movement she once had a role in leading. In her writing, she attempts to find her voice again and work hard to heal her trauma, while also advising others not to become entangled in the same traps.
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